Achievers Versus Underachievers

Beliefs that shape behavior

Achievers believe:

• It’s okay if things get difficult
• I’m responsible for my own happiness
• Hard work is the key to success
• Hard work and learning lead to pride
• I’ve got what it takes to learn to solve most of the problems I face
• I have control over my life

“What a challenge!  If I work hard, I can do it!”

Underachievers believe:

• Life shouldn’t be hard
• Other people are supposed to make me happy
• I’m entitled to success and all of it’s perks
• Hard work and learning create misery
• I can’t learn and solve problems on my own
• What happens to me is completely beyond my control

“Not fair!  This is too hard!”

Ways of modifying unhealthy beliefs:

• Model healthy beliefs about hard work and learning through your own language and behavior.
• On a daily basis, talk with excitement about your job and what you learn from it.
• Set and enforce firm and loving limits.
• Avoid giving your kids too much.  Make sure they understand that there is no such thing as a free meal.
• Expect kids to make their fair share contributions to the home… and the school.
• “Catch” them doing well and let them know.