Adoptive parent Support Group

Who: Parents who have adopted a child or are in the process of adopting
Dates: Thursdays for 6 weeks, April 22 - May 27
Time: 10:00 - 11:00 am
Where: 307 East Second Street, Suite 160 (Joshua Suites) in Newberg
Format: A mixture of support and education
The will be going through the book The Connected Child, by Karyn B, Purvis, Ph.D.  Participants need to buy the book on their own.  Reading/owning the book is optional.
Cost: FREE  (No childcare provided.)

Co-facilitated by Rhonda Andrews, LCSW and Susan Bos, MSW
         Rhonda has a counseling private practice in Newberg, specializing in adoption.
         Susan is an adoptive mother who also works in the adoption field.

Please contact Rhonda with any questions: 503-554-6655, rhondaandrews@verizon.net

Parenting Class Offered

Parenting Class

For parents of children ages 2-10.

*Child care available (up to age 8)

8 Weeks

March 9, 2010 – April 27, 2010

The Incredible Years Parenting class is designed to assist parents with the challenges of parenting all children between the ages of 2–12*. This evidence based program builds on and increases parenting skills, with the goal being to increase positive behavior while

decreasing negative behavior in children.

TIME:  5:30-7:00 PM – Tuesdays
        
PLACE:  McMinnville Cooperative Ministries

      544 NE 2nd St

      McMinnville, OR 97128

Instructor: Erin Johnson, MSW

        Classes are free if your child is covered by OHP insurance.

Call for sliding fee for parents of children without OHP coverage.

You must pre-register before starting!

Pre-register in office with a copy of your child’s OHP card or payment, or you may call the office with you child’s OHP client ID number. This must be done prior to the first class!

             

LUTHERAN COMMUNITY SERVICES

(503) 472-4020

617 NE Davis St.

McMinnville, OR 97128 

A PARTNERSHIP BETWEEN LUTHERAN COMMUNITY SERVIES NW AND MID-VALLEY BEHAVIORAL CARE NETWORK

Think Before You "Send"

As technology advances and makes communicating so much easier, it also brings with it problems.  Teens are not realizing the impact a "simple" text can have.  One of the newest issues we are facing right now is "sexting".  Sexting is when one person shares sexually explicit text messages or photos or videos (of yourself or others) using a cell phone or the internet.  To teens, it may sound fun and harmless but it can cause serious problems.

Sexting is unsafe!  Once you post or send a "sext" you can no longer control it.  And information you post online can last forever!  It may be copied or re-posted or viewed for years to come. 

Sexting can:
* Change people's opinion of you. 
           You may end up with an unwanted reputation.  Or someone may expect more from you (sexually).
* Cause bullying. 
            A sext that gets into the wrong hands can clearly be embarrassing.  it can also lead to bullying, in person or online.
* Hurt your future.
            Schools and employers often search online for information about applicants.  A sext you thought was long gone could still be on the internet and cost you a big opportunity.
* Get you in serious trouble.
             For example, students caught sexting may be suspended or expelled, or have notes added tot heir school records.  Some have even faced serious legal charges.
* Attract sexual predators
             Think sexting someone you only know online is safe?  Not so!  With just a few details from your online profile, a predator may be able to find you in person.

Think before you share any messages or images!  Ask yourself: Would I want this posted on my school bulletin board?  Would I want my parents, teachers or coach to see this?  Or a future college or employer?  Would I feel comfortable saying or showing this in public or in person?

If you get a sext message from someone, don't respond!  And don't pass it on!  Tell a trusted adult (a teacher, parent, school counselor or coach) and they will help you.

And always remember... Think before you send!!!

Collaborative Problem Solving Parent Workshop

A Peer to Peer Parenting Group…

Collaborative Problem Solving:

The Explosive Child Book Club

A weekly group for parents and other

caregivers of children with challenging

behaviors: Understanding our children better

(reading the book is not required, but recommended)

     

Wednesdays January 27-April 7

10:00 am – 12:00 pm

@ First Federal Bank Community Room  

Newberg

Space is limited. Please pre-register with Jan Urton, Yamhill County Family Support Partner 503-435-9107 or

503-434-7462

Co-Sponsored by Family & Youth Programs &

Mid-Valley Region * 1-800-590-7599 * 1-541-513-2021 *

Guidelines for Helping With Homework

Guidelines for Helping With Homework
So You Don't Work Harder Than Your Child!
by Dr. Charles Fay
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• Set aside a time each day for family learning.
• Set aside at least 30 minutes, devoted to "family brain cell development." During this time, there should be no TV, video games, computer games, etc.
• Model your own excitement for learning by reading a book, writing letters, etc.
• Your child may learn by doing their homework, reading about something they love, writing stories, etc.
• Help only when your child truly wants it.
• Some parents make the mistake of forcing help upon their kids. This only creates frustration, anger, and kids who believe they can't learn without their parents' help.
• Help only when there's an absence of anger or frustration.
• When either you or your child gets frustrated or angry, learning becomes associated with frustration and anger.
• Help only when your child can describe what the teacher said.
• This ensures that your child continues to believe that it's important to pay attention to teachers.
• Unfortunately, some kids learn that it's best to "tune-out" at school and let their parents do all of the teaching at home.
• Move away from your child before he/she "gets it."
• Some children believe they can only learn something, or "get it," when an adult is in the same room...or is guiding them every inch of the way.
• To prevent this dependency, avoid falling into the habit of sitting at the table as your child does their homework, especially when they are on the brink of learning something new.

THE CARDINAL RULE FOR HELPING:
Never Work Harder Than Your Child.
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Achievers Versus Underachievers

Beliefs that shape behavior

Achievers believe:

• It’s okay if things get difficult
• I’m responsible for my own happiness
• Hard work is the key to success
• Hard work and learning lead to pride
• I’ve got what it takes to learn to solve most of the problems I face
• I have control over my life

“What a challenge!  If I work hard, I can do it!”

Underachievers believe:

• Life shouldn’t be hard
• Other people are supposed to make me happy
• I’m entitled to success and all of it’s perks
• Hard work and learning create misery
• I can’t learn and solve problems on my own
• What happens to me is completely beyond my control

“Not fair!  This is too hard!”

Ways of modifying unhealthy beliefs:

• Model healthy beliefs about hard work and learning through your own language and behavior.
• On a daily basis, talk with excitement about your job and what you learn from it.
• Set and enforce firm and loving limits.
• Avoid giving your kids too much.  Make sure they understand that there is no such thing as a free meal.
• Expect kids to make their fair share contributions to the home… and the school.
• “Catch” them doing well and let them know.